Cognitive behavioral therapy, Solution focused therapy, Internal family systems therapy, Drug and alcohol education, Grief counseling, Career counseling, Hypnotherapy, Relationship issues, Parenting problems, Depression,  Anxiety, Post traumatic stress disorder-PTSD, Divorce, Stepfamily problem,  Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Solution focused therapy, Internal Family Systems Therapy, Imago Therapy, Career counseling, Hypnotherapy, Drug & alcohol counseling, Drug problems, Marijuana abuse, Alcohol abuse, Alcohol addiction, Loss of a spouse, Loss of a child, Manic depression, Relationship issues, Couples counseling, Marital counseling, Marriage counseling, Affairs, Divorce, Divorce busting, Remarriage, Prenuptial agreements,  Parent coordination, Post-divorce issues, ADHD, Attention deficit, Bipolar disorder, Family counseling, Child counseling, Children of divorce, Preschool children
“A Family Counselor” marriage and family counseling for the residents of Bloomingdale, Carol Stream, Glendale Heights, Roselle, Itasca, Medinah, Hanover Park, Bartlett, Elgin, Schaumburg, Glen Ellyn, Addison, Bensenville, Keeneyville, Warrenville, Cloverdale, Wood Dale, Villa park, Streamwood, Wheaton, Ontarioville, Naperville, Lisle, Aurora, Plainfield, Bolingbrook, and DuPage County, Far West Suburbs, West Suburbs we provide individual, marriage  (couples), and family counseling services for overweight/obesity issues, compulsive eating, sexual abuse issues, trauma counseling, PTSD, for adults, children, and teens utilizing brief therapy methods.

CHILDREN AND TEENS
. . . a wonderful and adventurous path to completion!

     Children and teens come into counseling for many reasons including emotional, behavioral and/or academic problems including drugs and alcohol. The family may be stuck in a developmental stage, such as, divorce, remarriage, loss of a parent, or launching a child into adulthood. Most of these problems can be resolved most effectively in Family Counseling. Children may also need Individual Counseling for more severe emotional, physical, and sexual traumas or if parents are not emotionally available or motivated. Parents already have a relationship with the child, and with coaching and support, they are better able to provide the nurturing as well as the discipline their child needs.

Why Do Kids Do What They Do?
     Young children are the most vulnerable members of the family and, also, the most malleable and changeable. If we have nurtured them as infants, they learn to trust us and they want to please us. Children respond to the attention that parents, teachers, counselors, and other significant adults give them. They do what they do to get your attention. If they can't get your positive attention, they will go for the negative attention rather than no attention. Positive or negative attention will shape a child's behavior. Remember to praise the behavior you want to increase and ignore the behavior you want to decrease.

Behavior Modification Techniques Work!
     Once you understand this basic behavior modification principal, it is easy to get kids to listen, follow direction, and do their chores without being told, etc. If they have a loving relationship with their parents and caretakers, they want to please and they want to be accepted and loved, just like adults. They are little persons and should be treated the way you would want to be treated. Basic parenting skills such as Use of Effective Praise, Ignoring, Mild Social Disapproval, Time to Think, 1,2,3 Magic, Natural Consequences (if then, contingencies), and Behavior Modification Charts really work if used appropriately.

Parenting classes can help, and family counseling is even better!

Nature vs. Nurture Controversy!
     Research shows that basic temperaments, such as passivity and aggressivity, seem to be present within 24 hours of a child's birth. But parents and caretakers, can shape a child's behavior in many ways. If you say what you mean, mean what you say, and do what you say you will do, kids will listen and follow like little soldiers. After awhile, they even walk and talk like their parents!

     Your Child's Ethical and Moral Development Depends on Parents Working Together! Although important, soldiering is not all we want to teach them. We want them to be able to resist peer pressure, say no to drugs, and take responsibility for their own happiness and well-being. We want them to learn to delay gratification, learn to play cooperatively, to complete tasks, do well in school, manage money, give to those less fortunate, to have friends, to be honest and forthright, be sociable, loving, helpful, and productive persons. We want them to grow ethically and morally and follow the rules of their parents, God, and their Country. Children force us to grow and get clear about our values before we can teach them to our children.

After all, the apple doesn't fall too far from the tree!

Listen to your Child!
     By age 11-12, we want them to think for themselves, take responsibility for their decisions, know why they make them, and take responsibility for solving their own problems.They may need help to think this through. By adolescence, they are quick to point out our hypocrisies. Be willing to look at yourself and see if there is any truth to what they are saying and be willing to acknowledge your shortcomings and change them if necessary. You want to praise their ability to think for themselves and make good decisions. Learn how to truly listen to your child and understand how they think and feel about things, and why they think the way they do.

The Launching Stage!
     By the time we launch them into adulthood, we want them to be physically, emotionally, and financially independent adults. If they choose to not follow rules at home, and they leave prematurely, we are forced to let go and let them learn through natural consequences. If they are old enough to set their own rules, they are old enough to take care of themselves. With freedom comes responsibilities. This is a difficult initiation process for many parents. For most mothers and some fathers, it feels like your heart is being ripped out. As adults, we have dreams for our children; we want them to have good friendships, happy marriages, a good education, successful careers, and children of their own, if they so desire. Remember, we can only teach them what we ourselves have learned. If our marriage did not succeed, get help to make sure the next one does. If in a remarried family, read books, and educate yourself about the pitfalls of remarriage and get help if need be.

Recommended Books:

The Me Nobody Knows, A Guide for Teen Survivors (of sexual abuse),
       Barbara Bean and Shari Bennett

Where Did I Come from (a child’s first book about sex, age 3-12) by
        Robert Mayle

How to Say No and Keep Your Friends, Sharon Scott

How to Handle Bullies, Teasers and Other Meanies, Kate Cohen-Poey

Alexanders Amazing Adventures, Values for Children, Linda and Richard Eyre

The Children’s book of Virtues, William Bennett

Giving the Love that Heals, A Guide for Parents, Harville Hendirx and
      Helen Hunt
Parent Guide to Divorce, The Children’s Book, Richard Gardner

The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: A 25-Year Landmark Study (Hyperion) by Judith Wallerstein

The Wonder of Boys, Michael Gurian

DON'T WAIT, GET HELP FOR YOUR CHILD NOW!
630-924-0600

A Family Counselor Marriage and Family Counseling from GLORY JORDAN LCSW, DCSW, CHT
Director and Licensed Clinical Social Worker Board Certified Diplomate





 

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  • Cognitive behavioral therapy

  • Solution focused therapy

  • Internal family systems therapy

  • Drug and alcohol education

  • Grief counseling

  • Career counseling

  • Hypnotherapy

  • Relationship issues

  • Parenting problems

  • Depression

  • Anxiety

  • Post traumatic stress disorder-PTSD

  • Divorce

  • Stepfamily problems

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

  • Solution focused therapy

  • Internal Family Systems Therapy

  • IFS

  • Imago Therapy

  • Career counseling

  • Hypnotherapy

  • Drug & alcohol counseling

  • Drug problems

  • Marijuana abuse

  • Alcohol abuse

  • Alcohol addiction

  • Loss of a spouse

  • Loss of a child

  • Manic depression

  • Relationship issues

  • Couples counseling

  • Marital counseling

  • Marriage counseling

  • Affairs

  • Divorce

  • Divorce busting

  • Remarriage

  • Prenuptial agreements

  • Parent coordination

  • Post-divorce issues

  • ADHD

  • Attention deficit

  • Bipolar disorder

  • Family counseling

  • Child counseling

  • Children of divorce

  • Preschool children

  • Infants

  • Adolescent counseling

  • Teen counseling

  • Teens and drugs

  • Teenager drinking problems

  • Teenager problems

  • Stepfamily issues

  • Blended family problems

  • Older adults counseling

  • ADHD

  • Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder

  • Bereavement counseling

  • Compulsive shopping

  • Overshopping

  • Financial problems

  • Financial stress

  • Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

  • Disassociation

  • Rape Recovery

  • Depression

  • Anxiety

  • Major depression

  • Social anxiety

  • Social phobia

  • Generalized anxiety

  • Personality disorders

  • Personal empowerment

  • Grief counseling

  • Death and dying

  • Improve coping skills

  • Improve self esteem

  • Reduce stress

  • Stress management

  • Job stress

  • Career counseling

  • Workaholism

  • Weight loss

  • Eating disorders

  • Clutter problems

  • Hoarding issues

  • Overweight

  • Obesity

  • Compulsive eating

  • Sexual abuse issues

  • Trauma counseling

  • PTSD

     
     

“A Family Counselor” marriage and family counseling for the residents of Roselle, Bartlett, Addison ,Wood Dale and Itasca we provide individual, marriage  (couples), and family counseling services for family counseling, child counseling, children of divorce, preschool children, adults, children, and teens utilizing brief therapy methods.